Many of us, as mothers do our best to raise respectful children. We understand the vital moments in our children lives, that if taken with the seriousness, could really help develop their future. As far back as I can remember I always knew what my parents expected of me in church, at the store, or school. I understood the weight I carried to make sure my representation of my home stayed a good one. I don’t disagree that being a good person in the eyes of others, carries meaning to a child. Yet if the focus only stays on what others think of your sons and daughters and not what your sons and daughters think of themselves, we will drop the ball as parents. We are what we think.
With maturity comes thoughtfulness. We begin selfishly and as we become older and begin to show independence we also learn to think of the needs of others. Many tend to attach themselves only to the children that seem well behaved and polite towards others. Without taken away from this let us not forget that our children still absorb themselves in thoughts that they may never speak out loud. This should matter quite a bit to us. What do our little girls think of themselves? How do our little girls treat themselves? Our girls outside appearance may not represent them on the inside. It’s okay that others think highly of our kids but it means nothing if our kids don’t think highly of themselves. Make sure our little queen’s thoughts stay positive and uplifting when they think about themselves.
We Are What We Think: Remembering Those Who Need Our Ears
I came across an article that explains different studies. One study showed that from ages 5 to 17 suicidal thoughts and actions more than doubled from 2008 to 2015. From Colorado to Alabama little girls in elementary schools have been under so much pressure from bullies that suicides in our community have heightened. Two years ago a black girl in Florida, Naika Venant, also became another child that fell to suicide. Though thought to have a tough exterior many painful and wavering thoughts enter our little girl’s minds.
Part of being a parent is to have the trust of your child. With that trust, your child will be willing and comfortable enough to discuss their thoughts that may haunt them. Communication has always been key to all types of relationships. Marriage, friendship, and work-related. All these are important but nothing compares to the relationship of a mother and daughter. Allow your relationship to be measured by the communication and trust you have between each other.
Many of our children pretend to be tough. Sometimes what they display on the outside can’t be matched with how they really feel on the inside. There was a study that showed how girls were very confident in themselves up until the age of 12 and then the positives thoughts about themselves dropped drastically.
It has been said many times that black people don’t commit suicide. We can’t keep living by this statement as our little ones take their lives each year. It is time to begin speaking up and reaching out about what is disrupting our little girl’s lives and in our little girl’s thoughts. We need to work together to act on these concerns now, to secure them a better future. It is our responsibility to make sure they are heard, loved, and understood as well.